original print : 4/22/08
Frederick Knott dialed M for murder, but millions of users are logging on to commit their cardinal sins.
The internet super highway for many leads them straight to adultery. Not only are people finding digital solutions to their seven year itch, but sites are making hundreds of thousands of dollars a year exploiting them.
From high end mistress brokers to sleazy sex hookup sites infidelity online is big business.
The approach of each site is a little different; some don't concern themselves completely with married men and women, while others are pretty explicit concerning jump starting affairs.
One of the most common less in your face, facet of internet adultery is the phenomenon of Sugar Daddies/Mommies and babes sites. The sites are plentiful and usually don't mention affairs, but you can usually choose what type of relationship you're after. One of the most common seen on profiles are "discrete relationships"
The Sugar Daddy Baby sites range in price from 19.95 a month to 35.95 a month with the gold-diggers - er- "sugar babes" usually paying the higher price. Ironically the most expensive of these sites MillionaireMate.com seems to be the same group of people that have joined Passion.com and AdultFriendFinder.com. You are paying 35.95 a month for the same guy that is worth 12.99 on another site.
On many they urge people to maintain a "classy demeanor", like on SugarDaddie.com.
I think this is pretty impossible. Even if you are wearing a turtle neck and wool slacks and none of your body is showing you are still auctioning off your body to the highest bidder in hopes that you will get money and gifts for simply being attractive.
I really can't think of a more classless and disrespectful act that a person can put their body through.
To be fair , on there are many profiles and posts on Sugar daddy websites that simply reek of desperation, while the sob stories posted are more than half the time fabrications, I'm sure the person that put them up was in a desperate bind.
Unfortunately, there are many people that seem just clueless. At 45 years old, no person should be calling themselves a "baby" and they really shouldn't be trying to live off their looks.
No matter how desperate their situation, I really think the sugar daddy route is not the best choice for them.
For the Sugar Mamas and Papas, signing up for one of those sites says two things. "Screw it, I have nothing to offer someone except money" and "I lack the patience and social skills to find a partner that will stay with me for free."
Sadly many of the profiles looking for legal Sugar babes sound eerily similar to those posted on Craigslist looking for illegal prostitution.
Sadly, it seems fitting; some adult models use their same pictures and screen names from their Eros.com page. A page where high end strippers, adult models and even escorts advertise.
Some would argue that the SugarBabes and nothing more than legal prostitutes, but in all fairness. Users are not allowed to explicitly say they will do certain sex acts for a certain sum of money. Are a number of the women and men on these sites escorts? Most defiantly, but I don't feel that the majority are.
Beyond the world of sugar, where one partner is usually married and looking for a younger single companion there is market for married folks that simply want to have a fling with another married person. The goal of these sites is to hook married people up so that both parties stay married.
Unlike the sugar daddy sites these sites come with a hefty fee for both parties, to receive unlimited emails and chat on ashleymadison.com one would have to pay a whopping $249 dollars every three months.
The site uses a credit system, so every time you talk, email or contact another member it cost you a certain amount of credits, like a wild adulterous carnival. The cost of 20 emails is about $49 dollars. Perhaps this is to deter married people that aren't serious, or just to exploit their weakness for monetary gain.
Surprisingly, sites like Ashley Madison and its skankier counterpart AffairMatch.com are extremely sexually charged. While the sugar sites ban members that talk about sex in their profiles these sites are the polar opposite.
Your profile is built mostly for you. You can pick options pre-made for you. When Ashley Madison.com asks you what you are looking for in a man, the choices sound more like your reading the back of a porno than descriptions of people.
Married hook up sites are like straight henny and no chaser, the Sugar sites dance around what they really are but AffairMatch.com smacks you in the face with it.
On its front page is plainly states they are the place to "Find a cheating spouse who finds comfort and satisfaction in marital infidelity" Both sites post numerous articles on the biological correctness of cheating as well as how to guides.
Every page you click through seems to try to convince users that what they're doing is "right" and may even lead to a healthier marriage. Perhaps because my moral compass is not currently set on a strong magnet, I find the idea of such a thing laughable.
The yin to the cheating spouses' yang is of course key logging programs. Ranging from free to well over $200 dollars, they can be downloaded or purchased and installed covertly onto the pc or laptop of the suspected Ho or man ho.
The programs come in many languages and for users of varying degrees of computer savvy. Some programs even automatically forward you all the mail that your spouse receives.
A free trick that is always a blow to the cheater is old reliable Google. If you suspect your partner of cheating, and you know the online ID that they usually use, pop the moniker into a search engine. All the profiles that they've created under that name will come up.
If you see AshleyMadison.com as one of them, the next thing you should pop into the search bar is "divorce lawyer".
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